Filter out ESM-incompatible defaultIntegrations when running in ESM

[Lms24]

Problem Statement

While working on #16137 we realized that quite a lot of Otel instrumentation is currently not compatible with ESM. In some (all?) cases this goes as far as the application breaking if the instrumentation tries to patch a package but isn't compatible with the ESM exports

Solution Brainstorm

We should avoid trying to apply instrumentations known to break ESM apps. Currently I'm we're thinking of creating a denyList of defaultIntegrations to filter out. Let's only apply this to default integrations. If users specifically add an integration, this is on them.

This also involves adding more tests for our integrations in both CJS and ESM to be aware of this.